Time-In Guidelines

I like time-ins.  This discipline technique, which is vaguely related to time-outs, focuses heavily on coaching the better behaviors.  Let’s say your four year old snatches a toy from a playmate.  During a time-out, your child would sit in a spot alone for a ballpark of four minutes with the withdraw of attention expected to help curb the behavior.  During a time-in, your child would still be out of play but the four minutes would be a productive time.  For as many minutes as the child is old, you coach them.  In the case of grabbing a toy, you might list all the ways he could ask, role play asking each other for a turn, give a brief puppet show with a positive outcome or draw a picture of it going nicely.  This is not a time to harp on the negative but rather to teach the positive.  Time-ins do take a bit of creativity but can be worth the effort.

Please give it a try and let me know how it went!



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