2 Year Old Running in Parking Lot

Hi Dr. Rene,
My two year old runs away from me in the parking lot. I have a four month old so when she does this it is especially challenging since I’m holding the carrier. I have been talking to her prior to leaving about what we need to do – hold hands, stay with mommy, etc. And lately I have been giving her a reward when she stays with me and holds hands. This works most of the time but she still runs away now and then. Do you have any insight on why she does this? It makes me reluctant to take her places!

Sincerely,

Katie

Dear Katie,

At two years old she likely does this because it’s fun or because it gets a big reaction.  I would save the conversation about what she can do til just before you are getting out of the car.  After you’ve gotten the carrier with the baby and you are just about to let her out I would say, “In the parking lot I need you to hold my hand the whole time.”  Then I would give her a choice to help her buy in, something like “do you want to jump or walk while you hold my hand,” or “do you want to sing or whisper while you hold my hand?”  If she is not yet able to make a choice just give her these things as a challenge, “let’s whisper the whole time we hold hands, ready?”

If this doesn’t work, be prepared to follow through with a consequence related to keeping her safe.  If she is pulling away or trying to run, “if you run, you will have to be in the stroller” or “you will have to wear the backpack (leash).”  I am not a terribly big fan of the leashes but I get it.  If your young child is a runner, and my first one was, I get the leash in parking lots or crowded places.  I think they are fine while the child is learning to stay with you or be a listener.

You might also practice a key word.  In our house we playe the Freeze Game.  I took Alicen to Springfield Mall, an empty place on weekday afternoons and said, “okay, today when you run off I am going to say ‘Freeze!’ When you hear me say ‘Freeze!’ your job is to stop your feet as fast as you can.  Got it?”  For the next while you are playing the Freeze Game and teaching that ‘freeze’ is a magic word.  Everytime she listens, gush a little by saying something like, “Look how fast you stopped.  You are a listener!”  You can then use the Freeze Game in parking lots and on bigger outings.

I hope this helps!

Sincerely,

Dr. Rene

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