Steps of Positive Discipline : A Grocery Store Example

Before the discipline, here’s a link to a previous post about ways to enjoy grocery shopping with your kids by age: https://parentingbydrrene.com/2013/06/02/successful-grocery-shopping-with-children/ Discipline Scenario: Your three-year-old wants to walk at the grocery store, but repeatedly pulls things off the shelf onto the floor. Proactive discipline techniques: Positive directions – This is a reminder to tell … Continue reading “Steps of Positive Discipline : A Grocery Store Example”

Guidelines for Using the Steps of Discipline

In my Positive Discipline workshop series, we spend three hours on the steps of positive discipline. This language provides a framework for effectively working through a discipline exchange from managing emotions with I messages and empathy to using choices and consequences. I have written about the steps and given examples of each in several previous … Continue reading “Guidelines for Using the Steps of Discipline”

Steps of Positive Discipline Defined

The steps of positive discipline are designed to give parents a framework for moving through a discipline exchange. The idea is to learn each and be flexible in the moment. I messages label your or another person’s emotions and explains why you are feeling this way. This avoids you messages which blame the child. Rather, blame … Continue reading “Steps of Positive Discipline Defined”

The Steps of Positive Discipline

The steps of Positive Discipline are not something I’ve created, these steps have been around for years. Originally written in 1965, Dr. Haim Ginott introduced a version of these steps in Between Parent and Child. Systematic Training for Effective Parenting, or STEP classes, desiged by Dinkmeyer and McKay have been in session since 1976. These … Continue reading “The Steps of Positive Discipline”

Steps of Positive Discipline

I have a two hour Positive Discipline Refresher workshop currently available through my online service, http://www.askdrrene.com. Below are some reminders and a few examples of using the Steps of Positive Discipline. I messages and empathy are foundation pieces of positive discipline. They are meant to be used as you enter into the exchange. I messages are for sharing (and … Continue reading “Steps of Positive Discipline”

Tips on the Steps of Positive Discipline

When you come into a discipline situation, there is a well recognized, often written about series of positive discipline techniques available to help you manage. These steps work together to provide a framework for addressing emotions, offering alternatives and curbing behaviors. The only trick is you have to learn them, practice them and use them … Continue reading “Tips on the Steps of Positive Discipline”

How to Talk about School Shootings with Children by Age

  School shootings continue to be a rare occurrence. Experts report that, statistically, your child is safer from violence and death at school than they are at home or in their neighborhood. It can be difficult to keep that in mind when we hear the death tolls and now see student experiences through social media … Continue reading “How to Talk about School Shootings with Children by Age”

Positive Discipline Language: It’s Easier Than You Think

Many parents assume that learning the language of positive discipline is a difficult task. When really, it’s not that hard. Good preschool and elementary school teachers are in and out of this language all day long. It’s like learning any new set of language rules; take a new job and you are likely learning new … Continue reading “Positive Discipline Language: It’s Easier Than You Think”

Transitions Can be Easier

There are so many transitions built into a family’s day. For children, this may include the shift to getting dressed, leaving the house, stopping play, finishing projects, cleaning up, coming to the table for meals, going upstairs for bath and settling in bed for sleep. All of these steps can have small transitions within which … Continue reading “Transitions Can be Easier”

What to Do When Your Child Says “I Don’t Wanna Go to School”

At some point, most children go through a phase of not wanting to go to school. For others, that push can ebb and flo for years. My younger daughter, Claire, has always had a difficult time going back after the Winter Break. There were tears in January throughout elementary school. Smooth, calm morning – I … Continue reading “What to Do When Your Child Says “I Don’t Wanna Go to School””