Rewards v. Positive Logical Consequences

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  1. Thanks Rene. I love this post. I’ve been talking about this subject with a friend. Of course rewards get us the short term results we like, but I believe they can cause longer term consequences. Of course, if a kid loves reading but also loves his iPod, I do think external rewards could potentially help steer the kid towards the reading versus the iPod. Sometimes kids just need an extra push as we all are kind of lazy and technology is so addictive. Also, I know parenting experts always say not to “bribe” your kids to eat their vegetables by offering dessert. In principle, this makes sense and I agree. However, we did do this in our home despite better counsel. My kids (3 & 5 years old) now love their vegetables because they were exposed over and over and over. They get excited by roasted cauliflower and asparagus. So — I think we need to remember to use our brains whenever applying any advice (even as excellent as yours.) I do think your theory is spot on and I really appreciate this post. I will keep this in mind for many years to come.

    1. I completely agree, the advice has to fit your family. Parents are their child’s first and best expert. No idea why but I remember telling Alicen she wasn’t old enough for certain foods and she would gooble them down. Nice to hear from you!

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